My house will look lived in- not messy nor extra extra clean. Really with a 8 & 6 yr old kids what good is it to spic and span the house when in an hour something is going to get messed up anyways. Lived in is just fine for me. Now when my mom comes in Dec maybe I'll do a lil extra scrub here and there but I'm not busting my butt. My hubby will be happy that's for sure. I usually have a list of 10 things for him to do and maybe he gets 2 done- so that eases that stress of getting upset with him too.
As for cooking...hell after all these years I think I got the basics down! Simple menu and all the usual thanksgiving suspects (turkey, mashed potatoes, mac/cheese, greens beans, rolls.....). I'm no Martha Stewart so why try to be! Part of me wishes I was more into decorating but hey I keep that for Halloween, Christmas, and Easter.
Simple this year people SIMPLE! That means lil stress on me than I'm all for it!