Being a MOM to an adult is so hard!

My son who is 20 yrs old and already has a child told me last month that he is expecting a new baby but with the "new" girlfriend.  Oh geez really!  As his mom I wanted to scream, yell, hit, say all kinds of bad words but he lives 2 states away so what good is it going to do.  I took a deep breath told him I loved him and would be there for him.  I did say this was going to make life even harder and I hope he was ready for it.  In my best mom voice.  But wow I just wanted to say WTF you doing!!! UGH UGH UGH!  He hates school and decided that he doesn't want to go to college, BIG MISTAKE but he doesn't listen to reasoning that all his family has given him.  He could even go to school for FREE because he is Native American but he wants to do this his way.  Dealing with this age is like fingernails on the chalkboard CRINGE CRINGE!  I could go on and on but it would take for days.  LOVE my son but someone needs to hit him upside the head to unleash the common sense that has been trapped. 

This week he called to let me know that they think they lost the baby but still want to get married.  Now, don't get me wrong I would have embraced this baby with open arms but the mom in me felt a sign of relieve and now he might have a fighting chance on getting his life together before bringing in the world another child.  I told him that I have experienced this a couple times in my life (in my 20's) and I felt I wasn't ready yet so I was given another chance to get it right!  I made sure he was treating his GF with respect and keeping care of her while she was dealing with this and he assured me he was. 

Being a mom to an adult is sooo HARD!

Which one is STITCH?

I love Lil Mama- she is such a character and this made my day.  Last week I was cooking and I asked her to get plates out and she says "Mom LOOK"  I just about died!  She is goofy . 

What more can a mom ask for~

I work as a waitress on Sundays, one of the busiest days of the cafe and I'm no spring chicken but hey it brings in the moola.  I've been with this cafe for 11 years and will probably be there for couple more.  My body can't take much more abuse but oh well I don't see winning the lottery in the future.

Sundays the family knows the routine, I'm down for the count after being on my feet for 10 hrs. In my room I stay.   My hubby makes dinners on Sundays so tonight we had BBQ- yummy but the kitchen is looking like it needs some attention but I'm keeping my mouth shut because I've learned to pick my battles.  My daughter gave me a foot rub and my son gave me attitude!  What a wonderful night to a very bad week! 

These nights make me feel very blessed!

How do you juggle all the Mom/Wife/Woman Duties??

This is so fricken hard sometimes.  Some days I want to walk out the door and go somewhere for a week and let them figure it out.  When I talk about THEM- its hubby and kids.  We are having a bad financial couple months (like everyone else) and its getting to a boiling point in our house.  This week has been real rough, no cash what so ever and that doesn't happen often but when it does it hurts!  Kids don't understand that no we can't just go to the store and buy whatever you want and hubby is grumpy so that is hard to deal with.  My hubby and I rarely fight but have been a lot lately.  Lack of money is a marriage killer for sure. 

Trying to keep house clean (impossible), dishes clean (hate that job), laundry (mt clothes never goes down), keeping kids occupied (would be nice if they can play by themselves w/o fighting), my online job (priority but no one understands that), food (wow kids are human garbage cans), paying bills or letting them know we can't until...., man the list can go on and on but guess who does all this ME.  Can I get a THANK YOU or HOW CAN I HELP but no I get attitude! 

How do I juggle all this plus keep that smile on my face? Where is cleaning fairy when I need her.  Its either my house or my kids who get my attention and its a battle.

Can you tell I'm stressed :)  Time to turn into SUPER MOM!

~Pam

Cre8tive Mocha: Enchilada Casserole

Cre8tive Mocha: Enchilada Casserole: "I am always looking for something quick and delish to fix for my family. So I was all into this Enchilada Casserole that my good friend Raun..."

Soccer Banner Season

This is our 9th year doing soccer banners.  I sew the 6x4 banners (make pvc pipe sleeves) and my husband airbrushes them.  I was getting a bit worried this year because usually by Aug we have at least 10-15 orders and we had 0!  But this week they have been piling in and that's a BIG WOOHOO because this is a money maker for us and it allows us to catch up and buy big tickets items.  This years its bikes for the whole family! 

These are examples of the banners!  If your interested (don't ya just love the plug) and don't live in the Bay area....no problem we ship!!  Want more info please go to http://mrairbrushhands.com/category/soccer-banners/

School Update

How in the heck did I become Vice-Chair of our school Parent Teacher Corp (PTC but in other schools PTA), oh yeah because I work everyday on some kind of school issue.  I do love it but some days I just want to scream and go hide in a hole. 

Our school has many financial issues just like every other school out there.  We are a newly re-organized parent/teacher group that is basically starting over and need help in all areas.  I'm working on a PTC Handbook for all parents. We need all the parent support we can get and hoping this year we can get it!

Our school has had a BAD past year and now looking forward to moving on and making strides.  Wish me luck and if you know any programs/fundraising ideas/tips/tricks please pass them on to me, would love to know what other schools are doing.  Plus wish me luck and hope we can make a big change this school year. 

Oh yeah a website that has really helped me out is http://www.ptotoday.com/

I Suck!

I totally flopped on the SITS challenge.  I started it when my kids were gone and did what 5 days then the rug rats came home and been on the CAN WE CAN WE ride ever since.  I haven't even had time to take a bath and shave my legs the past couple weeks.  No worries I shower but by the time I get the conditioner on I have 1 of the kids knocking or coming in the bathroom asking WHAT ARE YOU DOING MOM, CAN I.......so no time to shave.  Thank goodness I'm redhead and my hair is very fair and the freckles hide the hair.  I know TMI for some but for moms you know what I'm talking about! 

I did buy the ebook so I'll do the 30 day challenge myself and do it on my time...it might be 90 days but hey it will get done and I will make this blog fun and exciting!  Pressure people. 

Wow, I have some catching up to do w/Problogger Challenge!

My family and I were on vacation and my internet connection sucked so I wasn't able to do Day 6-10 but this week I will catch up!  Promise.

I'm really happy to be part of this blogging community and I made a commitment to myself to complete this challenge!  Lil pep talk for myself.  I have some great pictures and stories to share as well.  I might have to drink coffee a couple nights but I can do this and I will. 

~Pam
(by the way need to look into a signature)

Reaching out to others- Day 5 Email a Blog Reader

WOW that's was scary and I'm 41 yrs old- what does that say about me.  I felt like I was in preschool and I'm the little girl with her head down trying to see if anyone wants to be my friend but how can that happen with my head down.  Oh GEEZ Pam hold that head high and be proud. 

I did it...I emailed a reader and thanked her for the comment and how much I loved her writing style.  Guess what she wrote me back...wow!  It worked.  I can see that a blog is a lot more work than posting a story here and there.  Guess I need to play nice and make blogger friends.  I'm all up for that. 

I know I posted this day late but had other life issues to deal with yesterday.  Needed to actually do some work for my hubby's business.  Now on to Day 6!