Stress Levels Are HIGH In Our House

Oh My Gosh- can Friday please come like RIGHT NOW!  My hubby has been gone over 2 weeks but will be returning this Friday.  The kids are done- they are having meltdowns right and left.  I'm trying to keep it together for them but I notice that I'm turning to unhealthy foods and a lot of it!  Eating junk food is my stress reliever- not good Pam!!!

Yesterday, lil mama (9 yrs old) wouldn't even get out of bed to go to school.  She laid in my bed until noon- she cried on and off all morning.  She loves going to school so I knew she wasn't faking it to just stay at home- she was sad.  After she talked to her Grandparents and her Daddy she got in a better mood- thank goodness or else we all would have been in trouble.

Today, lil man (11 yrs old) picked fights with his sister and me- not cool dude! He was so disrespectful in his words and actions, I had to call his daddy to get him to calm down.  He felt so bad for his meltdown but we are all dealing with this last week so emotionally so we hugged it out but he also knows that this won't be tolerated.

We are all dealing with the stress of Dad being gone in our own ways but we all know we are also here for each other.

Our family unit is tight, we spend a lot of time together and we enjoy each other.  So having Dad gone for 3 weeks has put us in a whirlwind and we don't know quite how to handle these emotions.  However, we all need to look at the BIG PICTURE- Dad being gone is not to hurt us but to make our situation better. With this new position and raise we no longer will need to worry if our rent will be paid on time.  We are not going to be rich but we can breathe.

I'm also taking strides to make our family unit stronger and thriving by starting my own Virtual Assistant website.  I've been doing a lot of training and I know what direction I need to go to make this happen.  We are super excited about our future- let's just hope we can get through these next couple days, HEHEHE!

Holiday Stress- Happy it's OVER!

I'm saying HOLIDAY because these days you don't know who celebrates what so best to keep it simple- just my opinion!  Anyways, whatever holiday you celebrate are you happy it is OVER?  I know I AM!

Holiday's stress me out!  I have 3 b'days to deal with in the same month and its so overwhelming.  Yes, I say "oh I'll start early next year" but to be honest I don't.  That's my fault I know.  Doing the day to day stuff plus adding into getting ready for something several months down the road is not in my mind-frame!  Maybe one year this might work but that means I need to stop being a "procrastinator" and good luck with that one.

I feel like I let everyone down when I don't send holiday cards out, bake cookies, or buy gifts for everyone in the family.  That's a lot of stress to put on someone who doesn't plan ahead at all. I could say my New Years resolution could be "I'm going to be more organized" but I say that every year, lol.  So then when I don't do those things I get all depressed and get in that "I SUCK" mode that hovers over me for the whole month!

I try my hardest to make it the best Xmas for the kids and I do get that done!  We are not the religious family on the block so yes its about the presents- sorry.  I have one kid who doesn't believe in Santa and one who LOVES Santa so I adjust to that.  This year I let Lil Man set out the half eaten cookies and the empty milk cup.  He wanted to bring up "Santa's" presents but I said "I still want him to enjoy the excitement of surprise in the morning" so off to bed he went.

Cooking Christmas dinner is also a chore I wasn't looking forward  (I'm not of fan of cooking, remember) to  but I didn't stress over it and it was a wonderful dinner that the four of us enjoyed.  Still enjoying Ham sandwiches!

Biggest STRESS what not being with FAMILY!  I hate living so far away from my family (only in December though) but we Skyped and that was fun watching my grandma (90 something) figure out why I was talking out of a laptop.

Now CLEANING up after the holiday is just a lost cause until all kids go back to school!

So I guess now I have to think about my 2012 plans/resolutions- so stay tuned for that. :)

Maybe I should do this next year:
 http://www.household-management-101.com/reducing-holiday-stress.html

I walked in on a Burglary

at my house! Very scary stuff. Every minute something different pops in my head and I keep going over everything that happened. Stressing big time. Tomorrow will be a better day.

I didn't cry in front to the kids but I sure did break down when they went to bed. Which was not an easy task. I'm talking about putting them to bed. They didn't feel comfortable being alone so they fell asleep downstairs with us.

I'm going to write more about this tomorrow because how I feel right now is giving me a HUGE headache and I just want to rest. I'm sure I won't sleep very well but who would.