So Proud of My Husband!

Today marks an end of the BULLS**T my husband has had to endure at his job, actually the department he has been working in for the past several years.  He loves the company he works for but the department head has had it in for my husband since the first day they met.  I won't get in the details but let's just say my husband has been treated disrespectfully and down right wrong for the past 6 years.

My husband gets up every Monday through Friday before it is even light out and makes his way to his job. The moment he walks in that door he is ready to work.  He does that for his family.  If he didn't have us he would have left this job a long time ago because of the way he has been treated.  He has been degraded, ignored, and treated like he is nothing from his superior.  Last year got real bad and my husband started bringing that crap home.  We were all stressed out and it was making life at home difficult.  I told him if things don't change he needed to leave this job because it's not doing him or us any good.  No job is worth losing your self worth ( I need to follow my own advice- that's another blog post, lol)

Then late last year the company was bought and things started to change.  People in charge were now noticing the work my husband was doing and wanting to know more about him.  Attitudes were changing drastically and there was more communication going on that was encouraging.  Then big news happen that they were going to open a new department.  Everyone was telling my husband that he needed to apply for the position but he didn't want to at first because his self esteem was so low he didn't want to put himself through applying and being told he was not capable of the job AGAIN.  He has applied for other positions over the years and it was his supervisor that was always doing the hiring so he never got any of the positions. His supervisor didn't want him to grow and basically shut him out of everything positive.  Then he got word that his supervisor won't be the one hiring and my hubby jumped on the chance with a lot of support from co-workers and applied!

His interview went awesome and I could tell his confidence was growing.  Guess what he got the position, a LEAD position  Everyone around him was so proud and told him he deserved it- which he did!  His supervisor still hasn't congratulated him and actually made his last week there suck.  But he now can leave this department that has suffocated him for years and rise up to be that confident man he is meant to be! This position is a life changer for us is so many ways.  First, it came with a BIG TIME raise.  He won't be held down anymore and that is the best thing because that was slowing killing my husband's moral.  We knew this year something had to change and thank goodness it changed the way it did.

Bad thing is he has to leave us for 3 weeks to train but we will get through this and look forward to what this year will bring!

Meet My Hubby~ Ron Allen

I met my hubby at a Luckys Grocery Store a week after I got to the Bay Area.  I sure wasn't looking for a relationship but there he was and it just seemed RIGHT!

We started talking a lot and he had me laughing everyday- something that hadn't happen in a long time. We started dating then moved in with each other and within 2 years got pregnant with our 1st child.  Now the first 2 years was rough for both of us- I didn't trust him and he wasn't used to having an official girlfriend who he lived with so we tested boundaries and even broke up for a bit but BAM baby on board brought us back together (we still lived together- so sleeping together was still happening).  At that point we made commitment to each other that we will make it work for the sake of our family.

We have had many ups and downs but came through each one holding hands and head high so we make a GREAT TEAM.  We got married 6 years ago (been together almost 14 yrs) and haven't looked back yet.  We plan to be together for the long haul.  Of course we have a our bad days but damn this man makes me laugh everyday and my heart loves that.

This past year has been rough on all of us.  I was sick and didn't really know it- just chalked it up to getting older and this is what happens.  My hubby was a trooper on days I was unable to get out of bed and on days that I just bite his head off for saying "Hi"!  With my health issues this past 5 weeks he has been my ROCK!  If I ever doubted his love I don't anymore.  He even told me one day we were talking that he made vows before God and he takes those vows serious!  I got me a keeper!!!

He is also an AIRBRUSH ARTIST~ Check out some of his work.

You can LIKE his FanPage on FaceBook~ https://www.facebook.com/mrairbrushhands

Happy Father's Day

We had a low key celebration but I know my hubby loved it this way so it's all good! 

Hubby went fishing last night for catfish (ewww) but didn't catch anything to bring home.  He loves fishing but we have to get him out of this night time fishing because he never comes home with a fish, lol! When I first met him I was like your going fishing at night WTF??  But to be honest I think its all about what you do while your fishing.  Like for example.. drinking beer, smack talking to each other, no wives/gf bossing them around, and being one with nature.  He does come home stinking like the fire pit and fishing bait so I know he is fishing somewhere :)

Today he walked in the door and I just finished cooking breakfast so that was some great timing.  He ate, showered then took a nap.  I took the kids to a friend's garage sale, to a park, home for a rest, woke daddy up, went and got Subway sandwiches then back to the park for a picnic with dad.  Rest of the time he has been on the deck drinking his beer, soaking in the sun and reading his book.  He is chillin!  I'm making him meatloaf, mac n cheese, and green beans for dinner.  Dessert is Chocolate Chip Cookies made by Lil Mama and myself.  I think overall he had a GREAT DAY! Oh yeah I got him a Artist Easel for $5 at the garage sale- so that is a big WOOHOO! 

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! 

Monday Mornings- Vent Again

I know your probably tired of my venting about Monday Mornings but its rough!  I work as you know as a waitress and at 41 my body hurts so do you think I want to clean up when I get off work.  Yesterday, 30 minutes after I got home from work I took the kids to the park for 3 hrs!  I was there with some friends so had a blast but that gave my hubby 3 hrs all by himself.  He cooked a fabulous dinner and did a little shopping so of course last night I wasn't too upset about the condition of the house.  But I do have to say I wasn't very happy that my son was still in the same clothes as Saturday....um you took your PJ's off and put the same clothes on and DAD you let it happen.  Ugh-I told my son to change his clothes before we go to the park and he went right in to to do that- so why couldn't hubby say that to him.  Roll eyes!

Now lets get back to Monday mornings....I asked my hubby if he good do a load (1 load) of clothes that had the kids uniforms in so that we would have something to wear- that didn't happen but I did notice that all my hubby's clothes were washed.  So had to pull out some old clothes and work with what we had- lil mama was not happy with her uniform clothing today.  Love to start Monday morning with a lot of crying and yelling.  I put clothes out the night before for the kids except for Sunday's- guess I'll need to walk my tired ass body down to laundry room do my babies laundry when I get home on Sunday's. This morning was hard on everyone. 

As for the house OMG....breath in breath out Pam.  It's not like its totally filthy but at least pick up after yourselves- that's all I ask and ask and ask and ask but no one seems to get it!  My hubby took the kids to Gamestop- the one place they all love going and got games for everyone (not me) so they all vegged out on video games and you can tell because of the wrappers, receipts, bags, snacks wrappers are everywhere- PICK UP PEOPLE! 

When I'm at the computer I can't see the mess so maybe I'll just sit here all day :)  Let them come home and see I didn't do anything and they need to help- wishful thinking but I know I'll be cleaning up soon.  Guess thats my que to go clean....wait I'm going to make lunch and sit down to watch YR and when hubby gets home thats when I'll clean. 

Okay done w/my bitching.....I'll post a better post later- just needed to get this out before hubby gets home and he gets yelled out- feel a bit better now.  :)  Blogging does help WOOHOO!

Day 2- Back2Blogging- My Hubby~Thank You!

ASSIGNMENT: Tuesday, September 14: Re-upload a post you wish more people had read and explain why it was important to you.

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My hubby~Thank You


Author: PinkMama
Posted at: Monday, December 28, 2009
Filed Under: hubby

Well sometimes as you can see from previous posts I just want to scream WTF is wrong with you but other times I just look at him like I did the first day I met him with those goo goo eyes! Yesterday, I came home from work and he had the house clean, laundry worked on, kids alive, and made a yummy dinner. He made sure I didn't have to do much and I was able to relax. What a man! I appreciate him and he doesn't know it but I brag a lot about what a wonderful husband I have to my customers. Last year at this time I wasn't quite sure if we would have made it but we did and have even grown as a couple. Looking forward to a wonderful year and more growth in our relationship. When I see him trying I want to try even more!
 
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Why is this post so important to me, well.....because my husband is very important to me!  Simple huh!  My hubby is our ROCK.  He gets up at 3:30am every morning to go to a job he HATES then comes home and works more on his airbrushing business.  Okay maybe not everyday he does that but 3-4 days lately.  On weekends he has at least one event to paint at so he rarely gets a day off.  I do cringe when I see him playing video games on his spare time instead of working on stuff around the house or outside but I have to let that go because that is a fight I won't win!  I've learned over the years to pick my battles.  LOL!  Plus he cooks Sunday dinners- love that!!! 
 
As a wife I want to recognize that I have a wonderful husband and I would like to apologize on here if I bitch about him but this is how I can work through it.  Then he doesn't have to hear about it and I won't become that wife who is nagging all the time.  Okay I nag but in my own way- I make jokes! 
 
Respond if you have a WONDERFUL HUSBAND and let us know why!!!

I forgot to add that this Back2blogging event has SPONSORS:   Standards of Excellence, Westar Kitchen and Bath, and Florida Builder Appliances,

My hubby~Thank You

Well sometimes as you can see from previous posts I just want to scream WTF is wrong with you but other times I just look at him like I did the first day I met him with those goo goo eyes!   Yesterday, I came home from work and he had the house clean, laundry worked on, kids alive, and made a yummy dinner.  He made sure I didn't have to do much and I was able to relax.  What a man!  I appreciate him and he doesn't know it but I brag a lot about what a wonderful husband I have to my customers.  Last year at this time I wasn't quite sure if we would have made it but we did and have even grown as a couple.   Looking forward to a wonderful year and more growth in our relationship.  When I see him trying I want to try even more!

Email I got: ARE YOU MARRIED TO YOUR HOUSEKEEPING OPPOSITE

Ummmm YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My hubby bless his heart is slob yep I said it! Our room reflects our cleaning personnalites. My side all dusted, things put where they are suppose to be, no clothes on floor, nice and neat! Hubby's side has clothes, beer cans, food wrappers, papers, newspaper and other garbage. I've cleaned the whole room a 1000 times but I think after 1001 I said FORGET IT. I would clean and put away his stuff and the next day garbage all over again. So I gave up! I know some people will say WTF your his wife you should clean his side of room....no I don't! I've been with my hubby for 10 yrs and about 5 yrs ago I gave up on this fight. Someday I hope this will change but for now it works. It's quite funny in my house because every space my hubby has is a HOT MESS. We have a U shaped desk and I have one side and Ron has one side. Guess what it looks like...yep messy on his side and clean and organized on my side. Then there is the garage where he airbrushes...omg I don't even know why customers come back because that is plain DIRTY! I gave up because he doesn't care and he has told me that. This is one thing I'm going to try to work on and get over my resentment with my hubby. I need to let some crap go. I just don't feel like I have to pick up after a grown man but if I want a clean house I'm going to have to, lol! Not sure when but I will tackle this issue!

The email was a about a book at Barnes and Noble: Busy Mom's Guide to a Happy, Organized Home: Fast Solutions to Hundreds of Everyday Dilemmas.

The Kids Tattled On Me

Can you believe that? They told Daddy last night that I called him LAZY. Well he is!!! The other morning I woke up to a big mess left by daddy and YES I called him lazy in front of the kids. He was home all weekend without kids. I work on weekends so he had the house to himself but he did nothing but play video games, watch sports and get drunk. But guess what, he does even when the kids are home and always uses the excuse I CAN'T GET ANYTHING DONE BECAUSE THE KIDS ARE IN MY WAY. Well this weekend there were no kids but what's the excuse now....YOUR LAZY. I'm not asking him to mop, vacuum, dust JUST CLEAN UP AFTER YOURSELF. I love to step on bottle caps in the morning time, love that! I have to stop or this might turn into a bitchfest and I don't want to do that...quite yet, lol!

I do feel sorry for my husband...sometimes!

When I'm having that BAD month I'm a total WITCH w/ a B! This man has to walk on egg shells for almost 2 weeks. The week before is my head turning all around w/smoke coming out of it! He and the kids duck that whole week. I just have to give them that LOOK and they know not too mess with mom. I gripe about everything and anything this week. Everyone should be on their best behavior. My road rage even increases. Not good for the bay area. Second week its all about the pain and I'm a big baby that can't do anything. My hubby does take good care of me but I still complain. Then at night I feel so bad I cry and tell everyone I'M SORRY. I can't wait for it to end because I want my smooth, fun, happy self BACK. This doesn't happen every month but every 3 months.

If my hubby ever reads this I LOVE YOU and THANK YOU because you put up with a lot with me sometimes but I guess that's just pay back for all the I have to go thru with YOU....lol just kidding of course.